Thrive Clinic Mullumbimby Practitioner Tondi Gilfillan

A Warm Welcome to you, I’m Tondi Gilfillan

I specialize in working with couples, relational education and beyond birth relationship support. I have been working in the Northern Rivers Area for the last 10 years as a specialist therapist, both in the community sector and in private practice. With over 6000 case hours, I am industry accredited and have extensive experience and a depth of understanding when working with individuals and couple complexity.

With beginnings in East Africa, a background in Social Anthropology, and many years of travel, my partner and I arrived in the northern rivers with our backpacks in 2000 and never left. After 9 years in the Disability Sector in various positions, I went on to complete a Masters in Gestalt Therapy in 2010, and did my thesis on Couples Therapy.  Here my passion for working with couples seeded, and I was very lucky to begin my new career in the mental health sector as a Relationship Counsellor and Group Facilitator.

Since then, I have been very grateful for the invaluable specialist training I have received from some of the leading thinkers on relationship health.

I have also facilitated numerous relational based health programs, including post separation parenting, team building workshops, self esteem and ‘Becoming Us’ peri natal relationship preparation.

I have also co facilitated various therapist training programs with Sean Tonnet.

Most significantly though, I am also a fellow traveller in the relationship quagmire. The relationship with my partner of 25 years, with whom I am very lucky to have a beautiful son, is an enormous source of motivation and inspiration, and provides ceaseless professional fodder.  Like all couples who brave the mine-field of couple hood, we too experience the full gamut of relationship’s ups and downs.

This keeps me humble, and helps me relate with the struggles that couples bring in a direct way.

My Work With Couples

Your Relationship is my Client. Like plants, our relationships wilt without good attention and care.  We also need knowledge and understanding of what we need to help our relationships stay healthy and secure.

My work supports and motivates you as a couple, with a strong educational component, as well as important emotional cognitive process work.

I am a passionate supporter of LGBTI & have extensive experience with same-sex couples.

Individual Work

Individual counselling is a poignant and powerful sanctuary for confidential support, self- reflection and transformation.

I use a creative, trauma informed, integrated approach in my work, and combine relational psychotherapy techniques with research in neurobiology, attachment and mindfulness.

Together we will work through your unique individual therapy needs and I will tailor my skills to suit.

Underpinning my approach to everyone I work with is a deep reverence for each persons humanity and vulnerability.  I will provide a safe, creative and intelligent holding for you as a couple or individual.

You are most welcome to call me with any additional questions.

Contact Tondi
Mobile: 0432 245 580
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    Session Fee’s

    Couples: $160 90 mins
    Individuals: $130 60 mins

    What Clients Say

    “ Tondi has guided me on a journey from severe depression and anxiety to being a functional member of society. She has great empathy and is wise and kind. She helped me confront the hard questions. Her continued support enables me to keep an even keel. I would highly recommend her to anyone. “

    ‘We are a gay male couple and found that Tondi held our issues, and past trauma associated with our sexuality, with the utmost sensitivity and care. We are very grateful for our sessions with her.”

    “ We found Tondi to be highly skilled and knowledgeable preparing our relationship for the birth of our baby in a few months.”

    “ Tondi helped us to admit and see clearly subtle levels of violence in our relationship. Whilst confronting, it has helped us turn things around in a really good way. We highly recommend her as a relationship counsellor.”